8 TOXIC THINGS PARENTS SAY TO THEIR CHILDREN

Children should always expect love and care from their parents but what to do if the parents are toxic....???

What to do if parents don't listen to their child?? 

                       "Anyone can have a child and call themselves "a 

                            parent". A real parent is someone who puts that 

                              child above their own selfish needs and wants."

               

Children should always expect from their parents

love and care

But, what if the parents are toxic?

How would you feel if i told you that in 2008

the Administration of children and families

in the US Department of health and human services

reported that more than 50 000

where officially counted as victims of emotional abuse

whether hurtful words are intended to cause pain

or not? They can leave marks and memories from the short time

to lifetime. Hurt full remarks can

come from loved ones such as parents,

and the physcological and emotional damage can be detrimental to a lot of people,

especially their children.

The way parent raise their children and behave around them

sets up the basic ground which builds their personality

and self-esteem.

So, how do you know for parent or caretaker is toxic?

Here are eight things toxic parents say

that can affect the child's life.

1) Offensive Words Towards Their Parents:

"You're ugly"; "too fat";

"too short", or "too skinny" or "you've ugly hair".

Degrading a child based on their appearance

will likely only increase their physical insecurity

and worry about their body image. This could lead

to serious emotional issues, such as eating disorders.

Parents are supposed to teach their children how to love themselves, no matter how they look on the outside.

2) Provocative Questions Towards Actions:

Like, "Why do you act so weird?", "Why do you walk that way?",

"Chew that way, move or talk that way?".

Children tend to believe anything their parents say.

So, sarcastic questions or remarks like these

may make the child feel like there's something wrong with them.

This makes it very hard for the child to be themselves around people,

even during their adulthood.

And they may then be trapped by the discomfort, and fear,

that others may laugh at them or notice the flaws

that their toxic parents made up for them

3) Selfish Wishes:

"I wish you were never born",

"I wish I had an abortion", "I regret having you",

"I wish you were a different child".

Parents should never say something like this to a child.

It'll make them feel like they weren't supposed to exist in this world

in the first place, and that they don't deserve to be alive.

These remarks are so harmful to a child

and to a human in general.

They diminish their hole sense of identity, which can lead to

which can lead to a self-harm and early depression.

Instead, parents should make them feel loved and valued.

4) Making The Child Feel Like A Burden:

"You cost me too much money",

"It's so hard to take care of you", "Having you exausts me".

If a parent says this to their child,

the child will feel like a burden. It'll cost them to unconciously

hide their needs, feeling some problems

Just to avoid the rough of the parent.

Considering that, Nemours, an un profit children's

healthcare system,

reported that lack of love and affection, or materialistic things

are some of the causes for some children to lean on

stealing and being abusive

5) Unhealthy Comparisons:

"Why aren't you like your sibling, cousin or the other kids"

"The other kids are better than you".

This whole reduce a child's self-esteem substationly

and makes them think that they'll never be good enough,

no matter how hard they try.

Also, comparing siblings with one another,

only promotes an unhealthy relationship between them.

This will cause them to feel jelousy and resentment towards each other.

Siblings should be equally given the right

to build their own independent identities.

6) Verbally Abusive Words Or Statements:

"You're stupid, useless", "You're looser"

or "You'll never make it".

Absolute remarks like this will damage the child's self-esteem.

It's important that parents encourage

their children into believing in themselves.

7) Threatening Abandonment:

"I'll leave you", "I'll put you aside",

"You'll wake up and never find me", "I'll just disappear".

This will cause the child to have abandonment issues,

feeling that people they love will leave them

because of who they are.

When the child grows up, this belief

will be unconciously ingrained in their mind.

They'll be unable to trust future relationships for fear of them leaving.

8) Empty Promises:

"If you do this, I'll buy you that" or

"I'll take you there next time", but then they don't do it.

When the parent makes promises that they don't keep,

it breaks the child's trust.

It makes the child feel betrayed.

Making fake promises is an excellent

way to teach a child how not to trust others in life.

To conclude, even though words aren't physically harmful,

they can be extremely harmful to the psychic

and emotional well-being.

Childhood is an essential chapter in every human's life.

Our childhood builds our personalities, behaviours

and beliefs.

Have you experienced any of these forms of abuse?

How do you feel about them? Do you know someone who has

and get benefit by reading this blog?